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Why do christian woman prefer a non-christian husband?
Posted : 5 Apr, 2018 12:11 AM

Isnt that just making excuses for bad life choices? Calling the unfaithful good and the faithful bad.... and then you end up in a Godless marriage.... you get what you pay for and in maarriage you HAVE to give up most of yourself otherwise it fails somewhere down the road. Marriage is not the teenage fantasy of love at first sight, long romance then happily ever after. There is NO perfect husband the ones that look like it only LOOK like it.... many times \"perfect husbands\" are only so shiny because their wifes did the sacrifice of shining them with themselves... almost NO successful man gets that good without a woman behind him... which does not mean find a random slob and \"fix him up\" that would just be stupid, it means look beyond the now into the possible tomorrow... if he already has everything what would he need you for other than sex? Also (general observation) if you are a woman older than 30 and still unmarried then YOU are automatically of lesser marriageable quality and after 40 you are def not \"perfect wife\" material either.... the sword cuts both ways. The ideal wife by worldly standards will always be 23-25jrs old and generally fawningly obedient and the ideal husband will always be filled with money or \"success\" as it\'s often euphemised and strong with natural confidence. Nice if you can get either but not universal and for many only the fantasy that such ideals are. Men are equally guilty in that they generally also struggle to shake their own (usually more physically defined) genetic directives... luckily it only takes one random man/woman accidentally stumbling through such defenses to make a man/woman reboot his/her mentality. My point is reality does not care about want\'s or other excuses, need\'s and not being terrified of potential responsibilities are more important.

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Have any of you found guysthat say they love you and chase other women?
Posted : 8 Mar, 2018 10:24 AM

You willfully misread. God gave David power, including the ability to have multiple wives.... the reprove was that even this was not enough for David... one of many times David\'s heart was NOT perfect... His heart was NOT always in the right place initially the praise of him comes from him ENDING with his heart perfect. Also nothing of his story shows that polygamy is a good thing since it only ever caused him problems. Secondly none of those references are positive press for polygamy. Thirdly.... those 10 virgins are NOT brides but bridesmaids...

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Have any of you found guysthat say they love you and chase other women?
Posted : 8 Mar, 2018 01:57 AM

Well like I said (and a point that was completely ignored) a lot of people confuse what you must not do (sin) with what you should not do (stupid). If the culture permits it marrying more than one woman is not directly a sin unless at the point of marriage none of the parties had been taught or self-taught well enough to understand that God does not want multiple pairings in any way. Once you are married (in the sight of God) however you are married and simply having been stupid enough to think that marrying multiple partners was a great idea in itself is not grounds for divorce. You cannot correct a previous mistake with yet another mistake.... the possible exception being having a small army of wives....

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Have any of you found guysthat say they love you and chase other women?
Posted : 7 Mar, 2018 03:44 AM

You are confusing sin with stupidity. David over indulged with woman, Solomon more so. Both had disaster befall them because of it. In David\'s case it was his small army of sons aligning themselves antagonistically according to their mothers, his eagerness to acquire led to his house falling apart. David was many things but as a father he was a failure and as a husband he was an idiot. That said though 1 Timothy 3:2 specifically says the leader of the congregation must have no more than one wife. A leader must lead by example of what the congregation should be thus the congregation should also stick to the rule of one man one wife where possible. Nowhere in the bible (as far as I know) is there an example of a man with many wives who has to divorce any of them for religious reasons, once married you are married. It\'s not so much a thing of \"do such and such or else you burn in hell\", it\'s about being wise and seeking to rectify imbalance so you don\'t get crushed by yourself. No man in history I\'d wager ever married more than one woman without paying dearly for that mistake, sometimes it being the woman that pays more. Other examples being Abraham having to cast out his firstborn but illegitimate son, Jacob being ping-ponged between his two wives and their concubines, Hannah being mocked into deep depression by the other more fruitful wife...

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Whats wrong with taking a chance?
Posted : 5 Mar, 2018 10:49 PM

Sometimes its about God\'s timing. Trying to force it don\'t work. I was half asleep at the wheel, got a message from a unimpressive woman with (nothing that usually attracts me and a rather empty profile to boot) that she needs friends, for some reason I can\'t really explain for once I said yes expecting her to fade away into the scenery.... now I have a love for her that\'s so organic I\'m still in shock and awe at it. She basically sidestepped into my heart at a time where I had basically given up hope. This is not an endorsement of almost blank profiles btw, that\'s still a pox upon online dating.

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Have any of you found guysthat say they love you and chase other women?
Posted : 5 Mar, 2018 10:41 PM

Matthew 19:4-5 King James Version (KJV) 4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, 5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Matthew 19 is basically Jesus\'s refutation of the cultural corruption of marriage that at the time was divorce and multiple marriage as convenience dictated.... Any deviation from \"as it was in the beginning\" was condemned.... and no Abraham does not count as \"the beginning\" and both his and Jacobs little adventures into group-wiving led to disaster within the family.... nowhere in the entire Bible is there a story of multiple wives that does not cause problems for the participants. It was a cultural norm yes but a religious deviance, though not one condemned as harshly as some others. Back to the original topic though, the guys that profess their love to everyone they meet are actually professing their lust, they say whatever they have to to get what they want. Woman want to play games to find \"the one\"? Fine, the more careless guys will just cheat the game and the woman naive enough to think that they are the game-masters will get played. These men lie, steal and cheat simple as that.... for them every small victory is worth it. They don\'t see you as a individual of worth they see a mark. Lions seeing some nice flesh to bite into, drain dry and then discard. And because a particular woman has not yet learnt enough sense to steer clear yet she listens to her flesh that actually WANTS to get caught and gets caught again and again because \"this time its different\". Traditional systems of courtship were there for the protection of woman, woman wanted the freedom to do as they pleased and \"liberated\" themselves of tradition.... but now that has backfired as it obviously would and instead of trying to remake new traditions that would offer stability everyone wants to stay in the current chaos but add more social policing.... which wont work. You don\'t get to play with lions and then complain when the more aggressive ones try to take a bite out of you now and then.

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Affirmation
Posted : 22 Feb, 2018 10:54 PM

A lot of men generally have been taught to not blow their own horns (including offering suggestions for others on how they can do it), the one\'s that do get shamed into silence. We get taught that woman must be praised all the time and men must be in the background, that in a fight the woman is always right, etc. So the lack of response or even puzzlement that this subject was raised is not exactly surprising really.... men typically just don\'t think along such lines publicly. They fall back unto simply being the best you can be and any praise or affirmation being a bonus, this has actually led to a general discomfort at being excessively praised as the men simply can\'t understand how to handle it. Thus most men prefer silent indirect forms of affirmation that show the woman expects them doing what they do but are grateful for them doing it. The problem there is woman typically have come to expect direct affirmation of everything they do leading to the invention of countless stupid womans-whatever type days that completely baffle men and leads to resentment. The result of all this is a general internalized effect of woman does something she\'s supposed to do anyway \"what a courageous hero\", man does something he\'s supposed to do \"what you want? a cookie?\". Yes I know I said it a bit confused but it\'s what I got today.

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The dating learning curve
Posted : 14 Feb, 2018 12:03 AM

Don\'t think in terms of 3 or 4 times of correspondence, think of it as 3 or 4 weeks of correspondence. You only have an obligation to open yourself up completely once you actually decide to pursue a relationship, That said though the truely core qualities HAVE to come out early one way or another, one of those is NOT anything that can easily identify you though. The trick is to not wait too long to make up your mind one way or another, remember online dating goes at a different pace than regular. Maybe he ghosted you for something else entirely, maybe HE was the scammer, you have no way of knowing.

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Approaching ladies in person
Posted : 5 Feb, 2018 06:22 AM

To approach woman in general you have to have enough disposable cash to waste on a maybe if it ever gets to a date. She gets all the attention she can handle and he pays.... this he don\'t have a money tree. Unless the guy can do this he is most of the time rejected outright, although the excuse is always something other than money even though its always connected to money somehow. The more attractive a woman is the more \"successful\" (i.e. money generating) a man she imagines she can catch, and the attractive woman that dont think themselves attractive are emotional messes but thats another story. Complicating all this is the feminist habit of buttering the bread on both sides, the man MUST pay for the first date and most of the others but the woman MUST get equal pay.... how the man is supposed to pay for everything in this situation I have yet to figure out. Now this is rationalized by \"he\'s not throwing money at me he\'s showing me he cares\".... nvm that he shows how much he cares by spending money and the fact that \"dates\" are actually symbolic ways the male shows he can easily provide the female with food. Now with that crazy mess above being the practical result of \"dating traditionally\" the man is left with only approaching the woman he can be sure will not only say yes but will stay after she realizes he is in no position whatsoever to sweep her off her feet.... he looks for signs that she will probably think herself too good for him or strain his already stretched resources to breaking point. Only the less moral men ask for a hundred numbers for 20 chances of a short term thing while claiming to want a long term situation. It\'s not woman that play the game where they randomly make up the rules, its the game that has possessed the woman and the only men successful at it are the ones that cheat.... where have all the good guys gone? They\'ve hunkered down out of sight or simply turned gay. It\'s the kind of sin where even \"christian\" woman have rebelled against God and nature thinking they can shape reality to their whims and delusional enough to think there are no punishments coming. It\'s eve\'s sin all over again with adam again being too weak to properly handle his one built-in weakness.... Yes I know I seem to have gone off in a wild tangent but this is the actual reality, men being increasingly terrified of approaching woman is directly linked to them being bullied in being as un-masculine as possible, approaching a possible mate is one of the most masculine things a man can do and as we all know masculinity is \"evil\". You take away everything from men except brain-dead childhood-regressing ball sports and you still expect a man to act like a knight on a white horse? Then when one actually DOES act like a romantic hero of old he gets called \"obsessed\" and gets arrested for being a mentally ill stalker....

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Not exactly a dating story, but my experiences on this site to date...
Posted : 12 Jan, 2018 04:05 AM

hmmmm nothing judgemental there at all....

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